I actually Googled “how to get over a break up” and got tons of results and tips to help me to get over the break up. I’m still in the midst of it but I did find some things that do help to make every day just a bit easier:

1. Exercise. I know, this one is old but just download the Nike Training Club app and do some of the simple workouts help to keep my brain occupied for 10-15 minutes and I do feel better afterwards. Getting a nice body doesn’t hurt. Although sometimes after yoga, the mind is relaxed and the emotions do come and I would start to think about things and start crying, but that’s OK, I need to give myself a break. This actually leads to number two.
2. Cry. Yes, cry, cry all you want because the body needs some sort of release. Keeping it in is hard and I think is quite harmful to health. I do sometimes want to cry when I’m at the office which isn’t an option so I would go to the washroom and let my emotions run a bit. But when I have days off, weekends or holidays, I cry whenever I feel like crying. My family knows what’s happening so even when I do cry, they led me cry and not bother me. This leads to number three.
3. Tell someone. Don’t keep it in. But be wise about who you tell. I told my family and close friends and close colleagues so I don’t have to pretend everything is OK when I’m around them. I still do pretend a bit because it’s hard to show vulnerability all the time and they do worry but at least when you’re the most vulnerable, they would understand and they will become the best support team ever. This leads to number four.
4. Get yourself a support team. I have my family and my close friends although close friends are usually not around and don’t have time to listen to me analyze what went wrong and bitch about the ex, the thought that they’re there is quite enough. My family is great, they are super supportive in their own way. But I also have my therapist or counselor. Doing counseling helps because I get to talk about my ex and my past relationships without feeling like I’m being judged. With people that already know me, they have a preexisting  concept of who I am or who I want them to see so they are sometimes surprised that I’m vulnerable or that I value relationship like this or that. Counselors or therapists are there just to listen to you talk. It’s all about you, none about them. They dive into your questions and thoughts and they catch you when you use a certain word and ask you what you mean by it. They do have insights that are quite helpful. I really recommend this.
5. Read books. I began reading like crazy when the relationship started to fall apart and it fell apart quite quickly. I bought loads of books. Some of them are self-help books and some talk about the uncertainties of life such as death and traumatic events and how people deal with them. Reading a book that may tell you something about yourself that you didn’t know really helps when you just cried your eyes out over fond memories and realized it’s just your attachment system fucking you up.
6. Write. Write journals or on a piece of napkin or whatever. Write out how you feel at the moment. Write it out and let it go. Do not write as though someone will read it one day. Nope, just write it. Who cares. Who cares what you’re going to write and who cares if it makes sense or not. Who cares about grammar and spelling and how much hate you’re putting it down on paper. Just write. It’s great.
7. Give yourself a break. If you really want to eat a bag of chips, eat it. If you really want to take a nap, take it. If you really want to buy something that you don’t actually need but you just want to treat yourself, buy it. You’re single and that means plenty of cash on hand. If you feel vulnerable, be vulnerable, there’s nothing wrong with it.

Lastly, this is a working progress. But after experiencing traumatic event like a family member suddenly passed away not because he’s old or sick or anything, it’s because it’s his time, I learned that pain does get easier to live with after some time. So, I may sometimes feel like I don’t want to wake up and face the world but I tell myself, today’s pain is just a bit less than yesterday’s pain and tomorrow’s pain will be a bit less than today’s. So waking up every single day actually helps me moving forward. Getting through the day also helps. It gives you a chance to make yourself happy and make those fuckers regret.